Dan Schawbel New York Times best-selling author of Promote Yourself and Me 2.0 and co-author of Back to Human talks with your host Travis Chappell about how to build relationships the right way. Dan also hosts a podcast called Five Questions where he interviews a variety of world-class humans in less than fifteen minutes.
Here’s what Travis and Dan discuss in this episode:
- What are you most excited about right now?
- The movement of Back to Human, encouraging people to become more self-aware of when and how they’re using technology.
- Most people use technology as a crutch.
- What are some practical ways that we can actively make sure that technology doesn’t take over our lives?
- Use technology to schedule your appointments, but during the appointment, put it away.
- The health reduction you get from loneliness is the same as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
- There’s a big difference between giving recognition in a text and getting up in front of the company and giving recognition.
- If you work remotely you’re much less likely to stay with your company because you’re not getting face-to-face interactions.
- If someone is sitting at their job and not liking it, how can they be more proactive?
- A lot of problems can be solved in the recruiting process, you should be interviewing the recruiter.
- Take a co-worker to lunch once or twice a week instead of eating at your desk.
- Do you believe that what you know or who you know is more important, and why?
- It’s who you know, who they know, and who knows you.
- You want to help as many people as possible and bridge relationships.
- Talk about how to introduce people.
- You have to put a lot of thought behind connections and be sure it’s mutually beneficial.
- Send an intro outlining how each party could benefit from the other.
- It’s all about shining a light on others.
- Talk about your new book Back to Human.
- The most important chapter is called Lead with Empathy in the Me Too Era.
- At the end of the day, it’s about just being a good person.
The Random Round:
- What profession other than your own do you think it would be fun to attempt?
- A psychologist
- If you could sit on a park bench with anyone for an hour who would it be, and why?
- Tom Peters
- He created the whole business book genre
- How do you like to consume content?
- He’s an avid reader of things that are relevant to his interests and work.
- Give us a glimpse of your morning routine.
- Make breakfast
- Read for about an hour
- The night before he’ll set goals for the next day
- He’s flexible
- What is something that you are not very good at?
- What is your go-to pump up song?
- A lot of EDM
- What is one place where we can find you the most?
3 Key Points:
- Technology creates the illusion of connection.
- Connecting to people at work will greatly increase your happiness there.
- Leading with empathy is rare and effective.
- “Not having your cell phone is the new vacation.” – Dan
- “There’s nothing like being near a person.” – Dan
- “Every successful person has two things in common – they want to be more successful, and they want to be recognized for their success.” – Dan