078: How to Grow Your Self-Confidence with Ed Mylett

On this episode of Build Your Network, Host Travis Chappell interviews Ed Mylett, one of the premier business leaders, peak performance mentors and public speakers in the world.

Here’s what Travis and Ed discuss in this episode:

  • About Ed Mylett:
    • Just a very normal person.
    • Has good work ethic and works on himself really hard.
    • Excited about the transition he’s made in his career.
      • Spent the first half of his life building his business and net worth.
      • Wants to pay it forward by sharing what he’s learned.
      • Accumulates people who he’s helped instead of material things.
        • Things don’t fulfill you.
      • What never feels empty is serving people.
    • What’s Ed doing right now:
      • He has a podcast and loves it.
        • Has brought in some high-profile people.
        • It’s often in the top 20 in iTunes.
        • He does two types:
          • Content that’s his own.
          • Picks the brain of top players.
        • He likes podcasts because media tells us we’re divided, and podcasts prove otherwise.
          • Other people aren’t your obstacle, other people are the key.
        • Talk about the mindset shifts that enabled you to get where you are.
          • Used to want to be a major league baseball player, then had a shift.
            • Did well and got drafted to play professionally.
            • Career ended in catastrophic injury.
            • In hindsight he realized that happened FOR him not TO him.
            • Your first dream tends to go away and crumbles you.
            • He ended up broke, unemployed and living with his parents after school.
            • Like most entrepreneurs, tons of false starts.
          • He was being prepared to be the best version of him to win in business.
            • His father had recently gotten sober and went to AA meetings.
            • He came home and said he got Ed a job at a boy’s home.
            • Ed went down to the place for a job and became a live-in big brother on the campus.
            • All of a sudden, his life changed to wanting to serve people and make a difference.
            • Growing up in an alcoholic family prepared him to care for boys from broken homes.
            • Got recruited part time in the financial services business.
            • Took all his work ethic, intensity, and passion and threw it into the financial thing, but he was people-driven.
            • Everything happened for him because he believed it.
            • His boys wanted four things from him:
              • Love them, believe in them, care about them, help them.
              • When he meets people that’s what he communicates with them.
              • He takes this perspective into everything he does.
                • This has changed his life.
              • Without that mindset shift, this success wouldn’t have been possible.
              • He seeks out people who loves, believes, cares and helps him.
            • How long did it take you to start seeing real results in the financial industry?
              • It took about 2-3 years before he figured out what worked for him.
                • During those three years, he almost quit about 3,000 times.
              • First you copy those who are around you, then make it your own.
              • You have to decide in advance that your will to win is not for sale.
                • That type of mindset has massive power to it.
              • Total commitment frees you.
            • What is your best advice for handling rejection?
              • The symptom is that rejection is hurting you.
              • The disease is your lack of self-confidence.
              • Self-confidence is actually self-trust.
              • Over time, if you keep the promises you make to yourself, you’ll build self-trust and explode your self-confidence.
                • When you have an impeccable relationship with yourself, your reputation with other people is meaningless.
                • Your character is what’s important.
              • Most people live their lives not worrying enough what the leading characters think and focus too much on the extras.
              • Go into appointments with self-confidence knowing your intentions are good and that you’re there to serve them.
              • Your why has to be massive.
              • When he trains people, he’s working on their disease, not the symptoms.
              • If you’re obsessed with self-confidence, then regardless of the outcome, your confidence should grow because you kept a promise to yourself.
              • Life is not about overcoming things.
              • Be the one person in the room that’s not thinking about what others are thinking about them.
              • People who stay somewhere longer generally do better because they’ve made effort deposits over time and develop self-confidence.
              • Stop making decisions, judgments, and assessments on small sample-sizes.
                • People with small sample-sizes put off a needy vibe.
              • Is this advice exclusive to a certain personality-type?
                • He was constantly introduced by his parents as “this is little Eddy, he’s shy.”
                  • He began to embody this.
                • Ed is a naturally insecure person.
                  • He’s had to build a muscle of self-confidence to function as a human.
                • Don’t assume successful people’s personalities are different than yours.
                • The majority of the successful people he knows are natural introverts.
              • Do you believe that what you know or who you know is more important, and why?
                • They’re both critically important.
                • If you have to pick one, it’s what you know.
                  • In order to network, what you know can introduce you to who you know.
                • If you bring each other value, you can have a connection.
                • He’s a huge believer in giving to people, when he acquires mentors, he also has something to offer to them.
                • Knowing somebody famous is not critical to being successful.
              • Tell us about a time when someone you met led to an opportunity that led to success.
                • He went broke in business and his home was foreclosed on.
                • His wife’s car got repossessed.
                • The power and water got turned off.
                • His wife got a job and met a woman who introduced her to someone that sent Ed’s life in a different, successful direction.
                • He was scared and down in this time.
                  • He kept working even though he felt like a fraud.
                • He kept assuring himself of one thing: I’m willing to do the things other people won’t do so he can have the success other people won’t get.
                • We have to work even when we don’t feel like it.
                • We really do get what we expect.
                  • “That which you do not hate you will eventually tolerate.” – Malcolm X
                • When you make effort deposits, you need to stick around for the withdrawal.

The Random Round:

  • What profession other than your own do you think it would be fun to attempt?
  • If you could sit on a park bench for an hour with anyone past or present, who would it be?
    • Jesus Christ, obvious reasons.
  • How do you like to learn best, books, blogs, podcasts or video?
  • One of your favorite books?
    • The Corporate Athlete
  • Who is the best networker that you know, and why?
    • Tony Robbins
    • He’s helped connect Ed with millions of people.
  • Give us a glimpse of your morning routine?
    • Meditate and pray
    • Something cold to shock his system – cold bath, ocean lake or splash cold water on his face.
    • Go through gratitude program.
    • Go move his body – workout.
  • What is your go-to pump up song:
    • AC/DC Thunderstruck
  • What are you not very good at?
    • Anything mechanical
  • Find him online at his website edmylett.com

Tweetable Quotes:

  • “Total commitment frees you.”
  • “Over time, if you keep the promises you make to yourself, you’ll build self-trust and explode your self-confidence.”
  • “Don’t assume successful people’s personalities are different than yours.”

Resources Mentioned:

Buildyournetwork.com– Podcast website

BYN.media/fb – Facebook Group

Castbox

Ed Mylett Show

Ed’s morning routine

The Corporate Athlete

 

 

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