069: Getting Good AF at Building Relationships with JP Sears

On this episode of Build Your Network, Host Travis Chappell interviews JP Sears, an emotional healing coach, YouTuber, author, international teacher, speaker at events, world traveler, and curious student of life.

Here’s what Travis and JP discuss in this episode:

  • About JP Sears:
    • Author of How to Be Ultra-Spiritual.
    • His hit Ultra-Spiritual Comedy series has accumulated over 100 million views.
    • Been making comedy videos for the last three years.
    • His style of comedy is using the language of comedy to help people get more in-touch with their authentic selves.
      • Ultimately to have more meaningful and fulfilling lives.
    • Was an emotional healing client coach for 13 years.
    • Ran workshops, classes, and retreats around the world.
    • While he was running workshops, he was living in betrayal of himself.
      • He wasn’t fulfilling the comedic part of himself.
      • He thought comedy would be bad for business.
    • When he brought comedy in and was true to himself, it was amazing for business.
    • “We always win when we bet on our true selves.”
    • Before comedy videos, he did serious self-help videos with the intention to funnel clients into the business.
      • Just got a few.
    • He thought comedy videos would repel clients, but it did the opposite.
  • What happened when he made the switch to comedy.
    • There were a few repercussions, but nothing too bad.
    • The BBC got a hold of one of his videos and wanted to interview him.
    • Anytime you say something meaningful, somebody will be offended.
  • Do you set aside creative time to come up with more videos, or is it just when you get inspired?
    • Both, he’s had to progressively had to restructure his day and his entire career.
    • All he was doing was working with clients, about a year ago he had to give up his client practice.
    • Many different opportunities have come his way.
    • His videos bring in great business, give personal satisfaction and impact others.
    • The first part of his workday when he’s home is creative time.
  • What aspect of your business (now that its grown) brings you the most fulfillment, or does what you do give you a steady fulfillment?
    • On the whole, the work he does is very fulfilling.
    • The most fulfilling thing is stage performances.
      • The dominant language is comedy, but there are some things being spoken from the heart.
      • He has to be very present to show up and give value.
    • How do you help someone who is not fulfilled with that they do and feel trapped.
      • Fulfillment isn’t related to the size of our audience.
      • Fulfillment is typically proportionate to the risks we take.
        • When we don’t take risks, we’re living complacency.
      • True happiness and fulfillment come when we’re growing.
      • Take a look at risks that you’re not taking and things that scare them.
        • Where is a risk that you’ve said no to, but part of you needs to say yes to.
      • Start doing new things, even randomly.
        • Every week do one new thing:
          • Do a class you’ve never done, etc.
        • This creates a pattern to interrupt and psychologically opens up consciousness.
      • Define what happiness is vs. gratification.
        • Happiness is a combination of meaning and fulfillment.
          • More big picture.
          • Might come by way of a lot of adversity and sacrifice.
          • When we’re in the pursuit of happiness, we often go toward gratification instead.
            • You need to re-orient yourself to what real happiness is.
          • Gratification is more about pleasure.
            • Might feel amazing now but destroy the rest of your life.
          • Happiness is a feeling and a deeper state of mind.
            • It’s somehow derived from within ourselves.
          • Do you believe that what you know or who you know is more important, and why?
            • The who has become incredibly apparent to him lately.
            • When taking on projects you’re not sure how to complete, it comes down to who you know.
            • He’s had the chance the past few years to grow his network to include really heavy hitters.
            • There is a lot of up leveling from being around people who are living in a more unlimited way.
            • Witnessing conversations, experiences from people who think this was and seeing how they don’t use limiting words is transformative.
          • Tell us about a time when a connection led to a big moment of success.
            • There’s an organization he did some speaking gigs for.
            • The point person became his friend.
              • Learned she used to work for Tony Robbins.
            • Thought he wanted Tony Robbins to endorse his book for him.
            • His friend made the introduction and Tony did the book endorsement and invited him to be a guest at one of his events.
            • The most meaningful factor when entering someone’s network is what they’ve done.
              • When he’s able to show what he’s accomplished, people welcome them into their network.
            • Not interested in what a person wants to do, he’s interested in what you’ve done.
              • Shows there’s some level of reciprocity.
            • What turns you off when people come up to you.
              • Biggest pet peeve, when people ask “how can I support you, JP?”
                • When he’s asked that question, the feeling is that there’s something incongruent going on.
                • It feels like they only want to do that so they can get supported back.
                • Some people will just tell him how they’re going to support them, and that doesn’t put a burden on him.
              • What’s your advice to people to establish a connection with someone at an event?
                • When people genuinely care and are interested, it looks unstrategic.
                • If you just sit in a conversation and care about the other person, they know that you’re being genuine.
                • This creates a visceral memory and fondness.
                • If you start to get real with people and break normal, you can express human care from your heart.
                • Being whole-sighted rather than short-sighted is incredibly powerful.
                • Don’t have a poverty mindset.

The Random Round:

  • What profession other than your own do you think it would be fun to attempt?
    • Musician, with a guitar
  • If you could sit on a park bench for any hour with anyone past or present, who would it be?
    • Hitler, because he doesn’t know of another human being who’s expressed so much horrible.
  • How do you like to learn best, books, blogs, podcasts or video?
    • Podcasts
  • One of your favorite podcasts.
    • The Tim Ferris Podcast
  • Give us a glimpse of your morning routine:
    • Take a mile walk
    • Meditate for 10 minutes
      • Eyes closed
      • Breath in and out
      • Mental mantra: “I’m breathing in, I’m breathing out.”
    • Do a quick gratitude journaling practice
    • Coffee and creative time
  • What is your go-to pump up song:
    • Radioactive by Imagine Dragons
  • What are you not very good at?
    • Little details in his personal life
  • Find him on Facebook and Youtube @awakenwithjp

Tweetable Quotes:

  • “We always win when we bet on our true selves.”
  • “Fulfillment is typically proportionate to the risks we take.”

Resources Mentioned:

Buildyournetwork.co – Podcast website

BYN.media/fb – Facebook Group

CastBox App – Click Go Premium and enter promo code 90DAYS to get three free months of premium features.

AwakenwithJP.com – JP’s website

If Meat Eaters Acted Like Vegans video

Unleash the Power Within Event

The Tim Ferriss Podcast

Radioactive by Imagine Dragons

 

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