In this current episode of the Build Your Network podcast, Travis Chappell interviews motivational speaker and international life, love, and relationship coach P. J. Dixon, who guides people towards positive results. Affectionately referred to as “The Love Guru,” Dixon has a pair of coaching programs on relationships and love. Not letting his wheelchair-bound disability stop him, he has been inducted into the National Hall of Fame for People With Disabilities, was nominated to carry the Olympic torch, started four disabled athlete programs and founded two non-for profit organizations. Travis Chappell chats with P. J. Dixon about how he overcame his physical limitations and converted them into motivational fuel, the importance of remaining genuine and making people feel important, and “speaking other people’s language” to connect with them.
Here’s what Travis and P.J discuss in this episode:
- P.J. discusses how his rare form of muscular dystrophy didn’t prevent him from living an exciting life – living 41 years longer than was medically expected
- P. J. used his disability as a reason to network, make connections, and make people feel valued
- P. J. discusses getting hit by an SUV in Tucson, Arizona and almost having his pelvis completely crushed and fearing he lost everything
- T.J’s four-month physical therapy miracle
- Spiritual experience when P. J. was told “To Love” and learned gratitude
- The importance of your mindset – determines who you are and what you get out of life
- How P.J. was able to cultivate relationships and his process for networking
- Don’t quit, identify what you truly want to do, living your goals with passion – people become drawn to you because it inspires them to do the same
- Letting people know that they matter
- P. J. has advised people to reach out more than once if he doesn’t respond right away
- The need to be genuine at events and connect – not “what can I get out of this” mentality
- Who you know vs. What you know: P. J. says it depends on the end result
- Meet people where they are at/speak their language before raising the bar of expectations
- Integrity – live your truth, not speaking badly about people, live who you want to be and your mind becomes more still
- P. J. would love to be a dancer or professional rock climber
- P. J. learns best by watching and doing – videos
- The Art of Charm podcast The Tim Ferriss Show podcast are two of P. J.’s favorites
- P. J. Dixon’s morning routine includes literally changing his sleepy scowl into a smile and praying in the shower
- Paperwork has been a problem for P. J. Dixon
- Contact information for P. J. Dixon
- P. J. is grateful for breathing independently
3 Key Points:
1.Your mindset dictates who you are and what you get out of your life.
2.When networking, make each person feel like the most important person in your world at that moment.
3. Be your authentic self with genuine passion and it inspires others.
-“Love deeply, and teach other’s to do the same.” – P.J. Dixon
-“When I realized, because of my disability, as far back as the 8th grade, that it was going to be harder for me to be connected with girls – I learned to be everybody’s best friend.” – P. J. Dixon.
-“Because I don’t let my disability keep me down, people are like, what is that little dude doing?” –P. J. Dixon.
-“I met him after walking on glass with my hands and breaking a board with my head.” –P. J. Dixon.
– “If you think you can, or you think you can’t…you are right.” – P. J. Dixon quoting Henry Ford
– “Make them, in fact, the most important person in your world in that moment.” – P.Dixon
– “When you let somebody know that they matter, there is nothing that they won’t do for you.” – P. J. Dixon
- P. J.’s Wisdom – P. J. Dixon’s website